We believe at Revolve One podcast that it is paramount to engage in difficult conversations. With our Season Four debut episode, we are doing more listening than speaking as a story unfolds that is hard to hear—yet needs to be told. Our guest understands we are there to be fully present and listen as she explicitly recounts parts of her childhood and youth that a child should never have to endure. This is the story of a sexual assault victim’s experience of trying to be a kid while having to deal with growing and grown-up trauma. It is a story that, although it is heart-wrenching and disturbing, needs to be told so that it can be heard. Revolve One knows it is vital we shine a light on the experiences of those who have dealt with (or are dealing with) sexual abuse and sexual assault. It is something we do not share lightly and understand how incapacitating it can be being taken advantage of.
To give an idea of the magnitude of this problem, “Every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted.” That isn’t even a full two minutes yet a debilitating experience leaves its mark on another individual. Even more heartbreaking is the fact that “every 9 minutes, that victim is a child.” A child, who just wants to learn, play, and grow, experiences something they don’t even fully understand—loses a part of themselves they were not ready to lose. Their innocence has been tainted and usually, their innate jovial demeanor is significantly diminished. These children are growing up faster than they were ever supposed to and doing their best to cope with fresh and confusing trauma. If the child knows their abuser or is in close proximity to them, unfortunately, the traumatic experience can be ongoing yet still hidden enough to not be immediately alarming to an outsider. It is appalling that “The majority of sexual assaults occur at or near the victim’s home”. What is truly alarming is “only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison.”That is only from what IS reported as there is a lot that goes unreported. There is an apparent need for us to do better as a society—a problem we must face together to engender the best solution.
This story you’ll hear may actually be one that is familiar to your own. As someone who also experienced sexual assault at a young age, I know how hard it is just getting up every day. I understand how difficult it is getting up and trying your best to shake off guilt—as if what happened to you was somehow your fault. It means dissociating from what feels better than actually being fully aware of what’s going on. Even decades after my initial experience with sexual assault, I am still affected by it. The perpetrator even thinks it’s okay to try to reach out on special occasions like my birthday—yet it is the FURTHEST thing from “okay” and I do not allow this individual the privilege of being a part of my life. So many years later, I am just starting to fully forgive myself for what I experienced as a child.
If you or someone you know is dealing with sexual abuse or assault (or has dealt with sexual abuse or assault), “The National Sexual Assault Hotline will continue to be available by phone and online chat for survivors and their loved ones.”
Simply call 800-656-4673 or online chat with them at: rainn.org
Their services are free, confidential, and available 24/7.
We at Revolve One understand how difficult it is to become a victim of such a traumatic experience, however, victims become survivors as they choose to live despite all the pain and self-doubt. Survivors keep going and we want to remind each and every survivor that we are here for you.